June 2, 2021, 1:42 PM EDT / Source: TODAY
By Rheana Murray
When Kayden Coleman was pregnant with his now 10-month-old daughter, no one held the door for him, fussed over his growing belly or made him feel special in the way that pregnant women are sometimes treated.
In a way, he feels as though he missed out on "the perks" of pregnancy, he said. In another, he's relieved no one knew the truth. As a transgender man, he felt safer that way.
"I didn't have to walk around in fear, worrying that people wanted to inflict violence on me," Coleman, who lives in Houston, told TODAY. "They thought I had a beer belly."
Coleman, who also has a 7-year-old daughter, is one of a growing number of advocates trying to educate the public — and the medical community — about what it is like to navigate pregnancy, childbirth and the postpartum experience as a trans person, and dispel stereotypes about trans people that he said even health care workers believe. Trans people already face high rates of violence, discrimination and harassment; in the world of pregnancy and childbirth, their struggles are only magnified.
The 34-year-old called both of his pregnancies "very tumultuous."
"There was a lot of trauma," he said. "Most of that came from inside the birthing world, with medical professionals. There was a lot of questioning about my identity, a lot of misgendering. Being told I shouldn't be in spaces I was seeking care from because they were considered women's spaces. I was offered an abortion a ridiculous amount of times."
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